“You is a very fluid concept” – Alex Hitchens.
We’re all different. I get that.
But don’t use that as an excuse.
Don’t tell me you can’t do something because it isn’t “you”.
“I could never do that” or “I’m just not…”.
This is a choice you’re making. You’re choosing to be that person – somebody who thinks they can’t do something. It has nothing to do with who you are. And if you’re happy, that’s awesome. I mean if that’s who you truly want to be and you own that then I respect that. But is that the case? Or are you hiding behind an excuse? You wish that you could start your own business or quit that dead-end job, but you never do. Why? Because doing something risky isn’t “you”.
It’s about stepping outside your comfort zone.
As soon as you get that feeling. That pressure. You feel it in your chest. You know what I’m talking about, the anxiety. As soon as you feel it that’s your trigger. Your trigger to act and just do it. Don’t even think, just count to three and do it and make this a habit.
This is what I think defines remarkable people. They do this constantly. They always look to push themselves to do what they find uncomfortable. Because that’s how you grow. It’s how you develop. It’s how you become remarkable. Only doing what’s comfortable in life is how you become average.
It’s about the path of most resistance.
When was the last time you did something outside your comfort zone?
Something that truly scared you.
Think about it.
“But what If I fail? I’m n…”
But what if you succeed? Why are you scared to fail?
“How to not give a f*ck”.
Everyone is talking about this.
That’s the go-to advice nowadays. What people think doesn’t matter. Everyone’s opinion is irrelevant. It’s all about me. I know best.
This is terrible advice. It’s too easy to misinterpret. You should care. It’s impossible not to. But make sure what you care about matters.
Care about the important people in your life. Your family, your friends, your customers.
But negative people? People who doubt you? Who think you can’t do something? That’s when you should not give a f*ck.
They aren’t worth your time. Cut them out as soon as you can. But I know that’s easier said than done. Especially if they are close to you. How do you deal with that? How do you deal with negative loved ones? You can’t cut them out. But you can’t let them affect you.
“I respect your opinion but I disagree”.
I use that a lot.
It’s a polite way of saying I really don’t give a shit what you think.
You want to change, then change. You wish you could do something then start. I disagree with Edoardo, we’re not born this way. We become who we want to be.
It’s your choice.
Stop making excuses and do something.